People in glass houses....

One thing that Rob, has said to me over the last year or so, was that "I scared him".
Ive asked him many times to explain, to which no valid reason was ever given. I told him in my "letter of closure" that he has me all misconstrued. I asked, in my letter, if my raising my voice is what scared him.
He told me I was abusive which is another thing that makes me laugh. By raising my voice or yelling when he crossed me, he considered this "abusive"
I admit to hitting him about 16 years ago, and as far as I'm concerned it was well deserved. Playing with emotions is not a fun game. Its all fun and games til some gets a black eye and deserved it. Apart from that I never hit him. I did once, again about 15 years back freak on him in a room I was renting, but that again was due to the fact that he was just playing games with me, when I wanted, and he knew, I wanted otherwise. Apart from that nothing. I'm not saying he didn't deserve a swift kick in the ass or face for that matter, during times of infidelities, but I held back, trust me when I say I wanted to beat the crap out of him, but again, I held back.
It's funny that he played all innocent. Did he not think that cheating on me, running around behind my back, time and time again was a form of "abuse"- potentially putting me in harms way, by possibly giving me an STD? That's far more abusive than I ever was. The black eye I gave him went away after a few days - Had he passed on some disease, I could be dead today or severely ill - That's not abuse...hmmmm.
There I would be, going to bed after spending the night with him, and me thinking he was off to his bed at his home. When in fact that isn't where he was going at all.
As you read other posts you will see what i mean.
Rob was, as far as I'm concerned, the one to be abusive over the course of the 15, 16 years I knew him. I hit him once and freaked out on him once. He on the other hand, was "abusive" in his way, countless times. Once I hit Rob, I vowed to never do that again. Knowing I was wrong, I never did it again and can admit to it, Rob on the other hand was abusive the first time, then confronted, was abusive a second time, confronted and you can figure out the pattern from here and reading the below entries. This again lasted 15+ years.
The old saying, "People in glass houses shouldn't throw stones" rings out loud and clear.