..because of the character he really is!!

Reading and article today about queers and parenthood. I'm split on this. Though I don't think there is anything wrong with gay parents or parenting, I do have an issue with the home life of a child, in the care of a "homosexual" couple, more gay men than women. Gay men, the majority from my experience, are not stable enough to care for themselves, let alone a growing child. Rob is a prime example of this. Robs main concern, main goal, while we were together, though doing it behind my back, was to hook up with guys, that's it. If you saw how rampant he called phone lines, till the wee hours of the next day, you would see, he had no time for anything else other than his self pleasure. Rob had mentioned in the past about having/caring for children. This I found preposterous! The man couldn't even fry up eggs in a "normal" fashion, couldn't clean a home properly and was to busy in the evenings scouring the chat lines for a fast fuck. When in theory, should he have been a parent, this would be wrong. I can see him neglecting any child, in order to go for a fast anonymous fuck! The life Rob continues to live, I'm sure, isn't that of a stable lifestyle not one that would or should involve children. Rob has this disillusion that so long as you can buy nice things, it would smooth over any problem. This wouldn't work with children. It may have fooled me for a while but I too figured out his pattern. Being a parent involved responsibility to an extreme and again Rob would not be suited for this. At the same time, as Ive mentioned before, Rob is extremely promiscuous, and could or would put a child in harms way. In all the years Rob and i were together her hardly every took an AIDS test, and trust me, if anyone should be under a doctor's watch, it would be Rob. I was tested every time I did blood work and continue to do so to this day. Rob would, again as Ive mentioned, come home or come over and tell of "infections", which more than likely were some form of STD's, this would not go over well in a household with children. He had strep throat one time, after I was away for a while...not even telling me he had strep, he did tell me he was sick and I assumed it was a cold or flu, I could handle that, but he passed on strep throat, which was one of the worst experiences of my life. Imagine passing that, or something worse to a child!? I cant imagine at that point, kissing, sucking some other guys, a strangers, cock or lips and then, without any guilt kissing my lovers lips?? Rob is sick that way, was and is. He puts himself in harms way, but being an adult, that is his problem. You dont involve children, shit, you dont involve anyone else for that matter, and Rob isnt responsible at all that way, trust me, I have fallen victim to his "illness" once before. Rob is one of the most selfish people I have ever known, looking back in retrospect. He is irresponsible and selfish. As well who would want to be a child of this type of person. My parents are wonderful in every way, Rob would be the complete opposite and would be an embarrassment of a parent of caregiver. Although these days I am alone, I want to be alone. As Ive mentioned, I have friends and better social life, but my life is all mine and its how I want it to be, at least for now. Rob on the other hand was forced, by my throwing him out to be alone, it wasnt his choice, he may be used to it now, but I threw him out on his as, like his parents should have done 20+ years back. He is a spine-less clump of faggot cells and should live a life of solitude and involve or rather, put no one in harms way. Rob will always be alone because of the character he really is...
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