Rob was neither....

As days go by and I encounter more new people in my life, by many avenues, I think about my "friendship" with a guy I met about 4 years back or so. I met him on line and from day one we clicked. Though an ocean separates us, its nice to know there is a bond that has lasted through the years. We have gone weeks without out chatting, at times and other times its almost a daily thing. Regardless of that, we always have an interest in each others lives. I recall when we were together at a night club and him telling me that, he wished I could stay with him, trust me I still think of that night as it is burned in my memory, and I too wish I had stayed. He's told me that had we met years back, he would have shacked up with me as we have a bond in every aspect. Initially when we met, there was some form of jealousy - not from his flings, more of living a life I wished I was at the time. With Rob in the picture, and the relationship dead in the water, I was desperate to live. As the years passed, my friend and I have grown tight and we both have this desire to get together, to hang out, to have fun. The distance between us, makes it for a more erotic conversation, when we chat. He has mentioned how things are different and only because of the miles between us, otherwise, we would probably hang out alot more...be together as he loves me, as he says. Im realistic when thinking and knowing, it cant be, but knowing that he too wishes the miles werent in the way, makes me feel special, as he tells me. We discuss life as a whole, but the desire to get together is strong. I'm impressed with him as he lives a simple life, just like I like. Hes got that bad boy attitude at the same time and is the true picture of my desires, "Sweet lips and Tattoos" - I regret wasting the last couple of years with Rob as it was just that, a waste. People like my friend, mentioned above bring something out in me, something that makes me realize I am alive!! I have the same desires as every man and woman have. Those are desires that fell on deaf ears when I was with Rob, have resurfaced thanks to some of the people Ive met and primarily my friend abroad. The love between us, my friend and I, is mutual - We know that when one needs to talk, openly, honestly, we are there for each other, anytime of day or night. Theres an odd comfort knowing this. When he chats me up and we discuss living, its a joy for me. I smile knowing hes thought of me. I sent him a souvenir from Africa, a necklace...I sent him this about a year and a half ago...and every photo he has sent on to me, he is wearing that necklace and he tells me how he will never take it off as it means allot to him. I remember buying Rob a ring...it was never to been seen on his finger. My friend abroad is probably the sexiest guy I have ever met! I know a day will come where we will be together again and I look forward to it. I know nothing can come of this as again, an ocean separates us, but just to be able to touch him, hold him and kiss him, will be worth it all. He tells me how he remembers all these specifics about our time together which impresses me as Rob didn't remember such small detail, intimate details. The kiss my friend and I shared, the evening we spent together was a highlight of the last few years, one I will never forget, and one I hope to relive soon -
With Rob, there is nothing I wish to relive as it was all fake as far as I'm concerned, my friend is genuine and remains this way to this day. It goes to show that friends are forever and lovers come and go....To me now...Rob was neither!
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